There are specific conversations you hope you never have to have with your parents. Telling them you are unexpectedly pregnant is most likely at the top of the list.
The team at The Center for Women can help you. We can provide the information you need about your pregnancy and give you some tips about breaking the news.
If you need immediate help, call our 24/7 helpline at (800) 395-HELP (4357). We’re here for you.
Get Information About Your Pregnancy First
You need to start by verifying your pregnancy. Even if you’ve taken a home pregnancy test and your period is late, confirm your results with a free test from The Center for Women.
There are some essential facts you need to know about your pregnancy. For instance, do you know how far along you are? This not only determines your due date but also helps confirm your options.
How do you get the information you need about your pregnancy? We recommend an ultrasound. An ultrasound scan detects if your pregnancy is developing like it should, how far along you are, and the pregnancy’s location.
At The Center for Women, your initial medical appointment includes a free, limited obstetrical ultrasound.
Learn About Your Options
When you get ready to talk to your parents, knowing about all your options shows them you are trying to handle the situation maturely. You have three options: parenting, adoption or abortion.
Think about what it is that you want to do. Talk it through with your parents. Although they will have an opinion, they do not have the legal right to force you to choose one option over another. You have the final say.
We’ll gladly provide you with detailed information about each option so you’re prepared to discuss it with your parents.
Begin the Conversation
Once you’ve confirmed your pregnancy, it’s time to tell your parents. Although the news may be a big surprise that neither of them is ready for, you need their care and support. This is probably one of the most difficult conversations you will have.
Be strong. Speak calmly and try not to react to their immediate response. Give them time to let the news soak in.
You can start the conversation with one of these phrases:
- “I have something important to share and need your support.”
- “I have news that will probably upset you, but I want you to know.”
- “I’ve been struggling to tell you this, but I am pregnant.”
How Should I Tell Them?
Here are a few suggestions for how to break the news:
- Tell them in person, not with a text.
- Show them the positive result of your pregnancy test and possibly the ultrasound information.
- Talk about how you feel. Are you afraid? Excited? Still trying to figure it out?
- Share what you learned about your options and discuss how you want to handle the pregnancy.
- If you’re worried for your safety, tell them in public and have a friend with you.
- Wait until you have private time to be together.
- Pregnancy hormones affect your mood, so be calm and ready to answer questions.
Can The Center for Women Help Me?
Pregnancy tests and a limited obstetrical ultrasound are free at The Center for Women. Take advantage of these special services. We also offer other pregnancy-related services.
We’re here to support you in any way possible. Please schedule a free and confidential appointment with us today. We know how hard this is, and we want to help you.
You and your future matter to us.
The Center for Women does not perform or refer to abortion.